What is this “grieving process” they talk about? … and why is it so necessary?

From the perspective of a person who has never had to suffer these consequences, I have heard the “talking heads” and the media “psychologists” talk about the need

for a “grieving process” or time after the death of a loved one. I have never quite understood what they meant. Is this a set number of days when we don’t go out of the house or show our face in public? Is this a period of time when we are supposed to sit in a dark room and feel morbid and depressed; sort of like piling on all the grief for a period of time in order to get rid of it? I don’t remember my Dad doing anything like that when his mother finally passed away. Nor was I asked to do it when any of my grandparents passed away. Just what is it we are to do; and for how long?

After doing further study on the subject I have come to the conclusion that …nobody knows. I found this somewhat surprising since the scholarly sociologists-psychiatrists-psychologists and the dopes that the media trots on camera as “experts” or whatever seem always to have an answer for every dilemma. As far as this one goes, it seems they all agree that there is no answer. More to the point, there is no answer that fits every person and situation, no person no situation and no set of circumstances will ever be the same as our reaction, healing and grief. It is only ours to understand, join a community than cannot and will not judge the right or wrong to your reaction. Some people find solace of being alone while others need someone, to talk to and share with; our community is here for you.